8 Things About Hot Thai Girls that Get With Ugly White Men

Soi Cowboy - one of Bangkok's main red light districts....

I grew up seeing it all the times in the Philippines. I even wrote a CultureMutt post about it a while ago: ugly old white guys with hot Filipina girls. Although it was surprising at first, you got used to seeing it. As soon as Jammie and I landed in Thailand we started to see the same thing here. Only it was even more prevalent. AND it felt like there was an even seedier undertone.

Everywhere you look in the touristy corners of Bangkok, white, middle-aged travelers have a hot Thai girl in tow. Jammie and I have asked our local friends about this and here are a few explanations we’ve been given for why Thai girls go for these men:

Worst Case Scenario – As depressing as it is, it needs to be said: prostitution is alive and well in Bangkok. Areas like Patpong, Nana and Soi Cowboy are teeming with sexpats and Asian prostitutes. For many, prostitution has become a form of modern-day slavery.

Jammie and I will be collaborating with a group that is working to prevent child prostitution later during our stay in Thailand. Key to solving the problem is presenting viable economic alternatives to families. Prostitution has often been seen as the most lucrative profession for young women with little education and other earning options. One of the best ways to fight prostitution is to present better ways to earn a living.

White Men are Seen As Affluent – A lot of older white men in Thailand are traveling on little more than their Social Security checks. Although this is not much to live on back home, this income puts them in a higher income category than most Thais. So the stereotype of the wealthy white foreigner is understandable. Just as rich guys in the West attract hot women, white men here are seen as wealthy and therefore attract hot Thai girls.

Better Living in Thailand – The dollar or euro stretches far in Thailand and the average old white guy looking for a hot Thai girl is going to live at a relatively high standard of living while they are in Thailand. Even if there is nothing else in the cards, this alone will motivate some Thai women to want to be with tourists.

A Way Out of Thailand – Here’s the bigger goal for many Thai women: go home with the tourist. As in all the way home and out of Thailand. And that’s how you get old white guys hobbling around with hot Thai girls back home. It looks crazy but when you understand why it happens, it starts to explain things.

They Actually Prefer White Guys – This part came as a bit of a surprise to me. And it’s good news for white dudes wanting to snag a hot Thai girl: she may actually prefer white guys. For reasons other than just finances. What are these reasons? Keep reading.

They Think White Men Will Be Better Husbands – It is a sad nonsecret in Thailand. Married Thai men often have mistresses. Now obviously marital unfaithfulness is not exactly rare in the US or Europe either. The difference comes in the degree of social acceptance of mistresses. It happens a lot in Thailand. Much more than it does in Western countries.

And Better Boyfriends Single Thai guys often have lots of different girls going at the same time. Again, I’m not saying that you don’t get a lot of players stateside but the idea of only having one girlfriend at a time is more of a cultural norm in the West.

Thai women know all this and therefore many of them prefer the farang (foreigner) because he is more likely to be faithful.

They Find White Guys Exotic – Here’s a crowd pleaser to end with. Whenever you are up against a numbers game and a certain kind of man is a rarity, the laws of supply and demand come into play. One trend that I have seen more and more of over the years in Asia is hot local girls with equally attractive foreigners. At least part of the reason for this is a much more “normal” one: opposites attract and because there aren’t a lot of foreigners around they are a bit of a catch.

Over to you: Are you in an interracial relationship in Thailand or Asia? Or do you know someone that is? How would you add to the above list? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section.



Bjorn Karlman

Bangkok, Thailand


20 thoughts on “8 Things About Hot Thai Girls that Get With Ugly White Men”

  1. I think an important one is that there are white men in these countries who are lonely and sometimes away from thier families. They travel often and end up having a part time girl friend who squeezes them out of money for a sick mother or aunty or a ‘course’ they want to do etc. As they are part time girlfriends, they dont just have one part time boyfriend but many at the same time. They get off skype with one and jump on another account with another, once again remembering thier beloved sick aunt who needs money for a small surgery they cant afford.
    its a big business in thailand

    1. Samir! Well put. Exploitation goes both ways often. The other angle that some CultureMutt readers are pointing out is that international dating can also be a win/win… I have personal friends that have shown that international dating has led to real love and happy marriage..

  2. I don’t have anything to add to the above list except that its slightly funny to me that I do know an interracial couple living in Asia – you and Jammie! =) Although I know the conditions under which you two met are far different from the ones you’re describing…. since she has pan-Asian look and passes somewhat as Thai, do people ever look at you as if you went to Thailand to meet her?
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    1. Haha great point Kimi! That’s pretty much the only interracial couple I know living overseas too. I can’t wait for the Why Filipina girls marry Swedish guys post!!! I volunteer to have Jammie write it :)

    2. Hahahaahahha!!
      “do people ever look at you as if you went to Thailand to meet her?” ALL THE TIME!!! And that is a future post:) Thanks for the comment Kimi!!

      1. Bjorn, I used to date a Russian Canadian guy and I was painfully aware of the looks that people would cast at us. He, on the other hand, was oblivious to it all. It’s probably more obvious to you right now because you’re living in Thailand…

  3. …. I think mixed race relationships work. As well as any other and those odds are not real slick by the way, either. Interacial relationships often face different hurdles than those of the same race: Prejudice being one of the worse barriers that a person/couple can face. Can’t stand it. Zero tolerence for it .. Really smokes me. … On the other side of this topic is trafficing .. sex trade. Hate this even more! Most do. But .. there are those scum bags that put no value on human life, just money. Sick. I think exploiting in the form of any sex is wicked and wrong. It is a soul killer. Lord, stop me now …. getting to geared up here … Hate exploiting for any means!
    Love your adventure .. Can’t wait til you take us to Bali! … I wanna go!

    1. I love the passion Sarah! You are a natural born campaigner. How are things going on your end of things? Got a guest post for me soon?

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  5. I think this was an accurate description of what is happening and I am glad that you and Jammie will collaborate with a group working against child prostitution. Providing better ways for income generation is likely to be a key to solving that problem.

    1. Thanks for the comment!! (Just so everybody knows, this is my mom commenting!! I think this is her first comment EVER on CultureMutt:)) Yes, I am hoping we can at least make some of a difference in the upcoming project… should take place in the first half of March…

  6. Couple things first – I love how you have ads onthe right side of this page – the ones showing for me were – hot Vietnames women in Vietnam. hahaha

    Yeah, inter-racial dating and marriage is an interesting mix but hey if it produced the president of the United States, then there’s big proof that cultural mixes work. But regardless of culture or ethnicity, you just hit more on point if one group is taking advantage of the other. What if both sides equally benefitted? WHat if this was a win win! haha

    Of course child prostitution is despicable and your work on those efforts will save many children and their future.
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    1. Vishnu, that is the SECOND comment I got on the ads featuring international dating / marriage ads on this post!! (the first was on fb)… I was debating filtering all of them out of my adsense account but I have seen international dating work for the good too… – kind of ties into the win/win idea (an upcoming post)… So I think I will hold off for now…. Thanks for the comment!

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  8. I’m actually living with a younger Thai lady here now, and of course when we first met it was through a website. We emailed a bit, talked them then finally met in Asoke, and she was a terrific and intelligent woman with a good job. Didn’t need a falang to help out. She is a proud mother to two really nice sons and a has a good hearted family, as she said right from the start, older white men are serious… I wouldn’t jump all over that statement, but in this case, I wanted to get into a relationship here with a good Thai lady. Initially I told her she was too young, she’s 33, I’m 60, but she never saw a issue with it, nor did her parents.
    She has insisted on continuing to work and help support her family, my contribution has been to get her back into school to upgrade her education and help out with the boys at university, one will be a doctor and the other a engineer. I’m still learning Thai but Nok and the boys al speak good english, she taught herself and she taught the boys..
    And yes, I have had the odd questioning glance, but I think that most people can see we are a family unit and not that poor gal who has to troll for disgusting fat old men to support the family. The sight of them saddens me but I know they are working the only way they can, it’s a pity sex tourism is a mainstay in many cities of this wonderful country.
    But, just like anywhere else in the world, you can find a real romance if you’re willing to accept the terms and agreements of the culture and have a true heart.

  9. I cannot understand why any white man would choose to marry a Thai. Thai women are the ugliest of all Asian races. That is well known around the world.

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